What Is Your Reason for Being?

Every Christian should ask this question: What makes me a Christian? And, if I am a Christian, what should define my “being” as a Christian? If Christians do not know their reason for being, they will not be all they can be in Christ Jesus. Christians have to understand that they can only define themselves based upon biblical standards. This is because culture and Christianity have varying viewpoints about what “being” a Christian is. 

The Christian, then, has to learn to define their being in terms of their relationship with Christ (righteousness and character), rather than by the culture (which focuses mostly on external traits -strength, money, stature, beauty, family, etc).

Before going further, the Christian should understand: 1) A Christian’s being is not based upon external characteristics, but internal traits. 2) The Definition of a Christian is found in the image of God. 3) Culture (Secular or Church) cannot define a Christian.

With this understanding, we want to offer seven primary qualities or traits of the Christian’s being.

1. The Christian reflects Christ’s image. As Adam was made in God’s image, the Christian has to be made in Christ’s image. They will reflect the characteristics of Christ. (Romans 8:29)

2. The Christian is full of wisdom and integrity. The Christian will not be a fool. They will not lack spiritual wisdom and insight. They will be full of faith like the servants chosen in Acts. (Acts 6:3a)

3. The Christian is an example of the believers in this world. The Christian will set an example that others can follow. They will represent the Christian faith well to the world. (I Timothy 4:12b)

4. The Christian home will be characterized by the worship of God. One of the qualifications for a bishop was to have his home in order. Christians will strive to have their homes in order to reflect the faith. 

5. The Christian follows the example that Christ set. Paul exhorted the Corinthians to follow his example as he followed Christ. This will be the same desire of the Christian. They will only want others to emulate them as they follow Christ. (I Corinthians 11:1)

6. The Christian is a person of prayer. In the Old Testament, servants of God offered the most powerful prayers. Prayer is a foundational element to the Christian experience. (Ephesians 6:18)

7. The Christian is a student of the Word of God. The Christian will have a desire to know God’s word. They will not shun corporate and personal study of the Word. They will also understand the foundational beliefs of the Christian faith. (II Timothy 2:15)

What is your reason for being as a Christian? Do you know how to define yourself? When you understand who you are internally, you will be able to overcome every internal struggle and live in victory.

The Biblical Model for the Christian Husband

Being a Christian man comes with responsibilities. The same is true for the Christian husband. To clarify the role of the Christian husband, we have listed some other responsibilities associated with marriage. There are four functions that the Christian husband performs to fulfill his responsibility to his wife.

I. He functions as a Priest. The priests served as spiritual leaders in Israel. They would teach the people the precepts of the Lord as well as make sacrifices for the people. The Christian husband leads his family in worship of God. Even if his wife is in ministry and he is not, he has the responsibility to lead the family in the Lord's service.

He functions as a priest to his wife in some specific ways. The first is that he will present her concerns to the Lord (as well as his own) in prayer. This is similar to the priests who sacrificed to the Lord for themselves and others. The second is that the husband will bear his wife concerns and burdens in providing an ear for her concerns and worries.

II. He functions as a Provider. The Christian husband provides for his wife. He does this in two ways emotionally and financially. Most men have no problem with working and contributing to the financial needs of his wife. However, many men fail in providing for the emotional needs of his wife.

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. (Colossians 3:19)

The scriptures tell men not to be bitter against their wives. Some demonstrate bitterness towards their wives by not listening to their requests or meeting their emotional needs.

III. He functions as a Protector. The Christian husband also protects his wife. He does this in two ways. First, he protects her from the spiritual attacks of the enemy. The Christian husband knows how to help his wife in spiritual warfare; quenching fiery darts of the evil one.

Second, he protects her from herself. He understands his wife and knows how to protect her from self-inflicted wounds of doubt, depression, and frustration. He will not allow his wife to hinder herself because of unhealthy self-perception.

IV. He functions as a Shepherd. The Christian husband performs the duty of a shepherd for his wife. The shepherd corrects and comforts the sheep. He leads them into green pastures. The husband will lead his wife into the will of God. Through the word of God, he will comfort and correct her so that they both stand together in Christ without blame.

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (I Peter 3:7)

Being a Christian husband comes with great respect and responsibility. God's plan for husbands has not changed. If men husbands are to properly find their place and identity, it has to be done by using the Word and the example of Christ.